Meaningful & Simplistic Dates

While working with women as a sexual wellness consultant they often shared how they wanted to have more connection and meaning behind their date nights. That date nights had become routine, mundane, and something that could be easily skipped because of it. To bring back the spark and spice things up they would spend hundreds of dollars on intimacy products.

Sexual wellness is important and there is nothing to be ashamed of in choosing intimacy items for your relationship. However, I still continued to express the importance of using date nights as an avenue for connection. In reply the women would share how their partners lacked the creativity, perception, and awareness to plan something meaningful, leaving it up to them, just another thing to add to their already full to-do list.

So what do you do if you, or your partner, just can’t find the creativity to plan a Remarkable Date Night? Take a step back, a deep breath, and think about the last time that you really connected with your partner. A time when you laughed until your cheeks and sides hurt, where you looked deeply into each other’s eyes, a time when you kissed so passionately that your body was set on fire. Then consider something simple that will allow for spontaneous connecting moments such as those.

The first tip of my guide, 5 Tips to a Remarkable Date Night, is, let it be personal to your relationship (you can get the free guide at the bottom of the website), to plan something that has meaning for both of you. A good example is the morning I surprised my fiancé with a morning date of making waffles to celebrate her birthday, belatedly. I purchased a waffle maker, all the ingredients including fresh blueberries (another love of hers), and we made waffles for breakfast.

Picture it, being in your pajamas with the sound and smell of fresh brewing coffee, while you put together the ingredients to a simple waffle breakfast. Taking the time to laugh, giggle, kiss, hug, and laugh a little more. Taking time the time to enjoy a slow and easy morning while eating a delicious breakfast you made together.

This morning date was personal to our relationship, because we both love breakfast foods, but more importantly, my fiancé does most of our cooking and meal prep while I do other household chores. For us to spend time in the kitchen together making a meal that lights her up like the sun meant a lot. It was really about doing something together that she loves and that we don’t often do.

The key to making moments like this is to create a protective bubble around it. If you have children, plan something while they are away, sleeping, or out for play (age dependent of course). Be certain that you have put away your phones, turned on some music for an impromptu dance session (the DIY Remarkable Date Night Guide includes a curated Pandora station for dates), and let the your hearts lead you.